As a counselor, I am often tasked with helping people create and experience change in their lives. I often walk this road with couples. I often talk to them about the fact that they have to choose to be vulnerable or to not be vulnerable, but without vulnerability I don't know how change happens. The…
Dates have to be adaptive. If you have children, this is just a reality of life. You cannot expect life to continue at your pace. If you don’t have children, you still know what I’m talking about. This past week, my wife and I planned our first date for the challenge early in the week….
So last week, I set out to do my first 30 day challenge. I was going to listen to a TED talk a day. I made it two days. I failed. Not exactly the auspicious start I was hoping for. In fact, I’ve since cancelled that particular challenge. (Hey, I made it up so I…
June is a hard month for me. It is both the month that my mom was born (the 7th) and the month that she died (28th). To be honest, I don’t remember much about the month that she died. I was vaccuuming the house when my Dad called to tell me that she had died….
Are you a slave? It seems absurd to ask that question, doesn’t it? Some may even think it seems too insensitive given the number of actual slaves in the world today. But let me explain. I have seen countless people come through my office doors who are slaves. Some are willing slaves. Some recognize that…
Let's talk about something you will learn at this year's Hopes and Dreams Conference. Do me a favor. Take out a piece of paper and draw a circle in it. Now write out some things that go on in your life anywhere else on the paper. Work….hobbies…family…faith…charity…etc. Now write in the middle of that circle…
Steve Jobs gave this quote in his address to graduating students at Stanford in 2005. I believe the implications of his words are profound and stand on their own. "When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most…
Part one can be found here and part two can be found here. You can find part three here. What has been the cause of this idea that everyone should win just for showing up? Certainly, part of it is good intentions. Of course, there is an old saying about the path to a certain…
Does it seem to you like in today’s society, everyone wins? Do you feel like people get rewarded just for showing up now? Have you heard something like, “Hey the other team outscored you by fifteen runs but we want you to feel good about yourself, so you win too!”? Yesterday I wrote about how…
