I have a lot going on in my head. More than is usual for me to have running around up there. Because of this fact, I have more than a few blog posts started but not finished because I can't seem to get them to go cleanly from start to middle to finish. So, today I'm going to share a video that may produce a few tears for you. Enjoy
Then we try to soothe our pain. We try to soothe it by working out or making millions of dollars or getting involved in church. We try to outdo our shame, falsely believing that we can outrun it through activity. The net result becomes a heaping of shame on top of shame. Our activity does not do away with our shame; instead, it numbs our response to it. A numb soul tends to be numb to everything. This causes us to pick activities that keep us from connecting with someone else, which causes us to experience more shame.
As a counselor, I am often tasked with helping people create and experience change in their lives. I often walk this road with couples. I often talk to them about the fact that they have to choose to be vulnerable or to not be vulnerable, but without vulnerability I don't know how change happens. The…
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Simply having a thought doesn't make it true. Too often we allow our thought processes to control our feelings without evaluating the truth of our thoughts. We do not have to be slaves to our thought processes. We can look at each thought and decide it's merit. When we decide they do not have merit…
Relationships are hard They can have painful experiences. Those painful experiences from past experiences can cast shadows into our current relationships. People are complicated messes. Even, perhaps especially, the people we love. Often, when I'm working with a couple I will see a phenomenon I call "Hall Pass." When they are feeling their loved ones…
When you hear something, does your mind tend to run to the negative or the positive? This video deals with how you can train yourself to be more free by looking at things with generous assumptions. In the absence of facts to cause you to look elsewhere, consider the benefit of pursuing the most generous…
