Dear Reader, My production has been down the last three weeks. On March 20th, I had knee replacement surgery, planning on putting these posts up and continuing my normal content creation while recovering. That was the plan. Unfortunately, it didn’t quite work out like I had hoped and planned. I feel like I am back…
I’ve been working on a short book around this idea, not about eliminating fear, but about removing it from authority. It’s part of my series called Short Books for Serious Change. Book one, Start Anyway, is out now. You can buy it here. More books in the series are coming soon. But right now, I’m…
We live in an age obsessed with insight. We want breakthroughs.The realization.The lightbulb moment.The deep explanation that finally makes everything make sense. Why do I react this way? Where did this pattern come from? What childhood moment created this belief? What attachment style explains this dynamic? What trauma explains this habit? Insight feels powerful. It…
Let’s talk about something we almost all do, but very rarely admit. We believe our problems are special. Not just difficult. Not just painful. Special. Unique. Complex. More complex than other people’s.More unfair.More layered.More uniquely ours. And the moment we start believing that, we quietly hand our problems authority.When we do that, we silently stop…
Blame and responsibility are not the same thing.Blame asks: Who caused this?Responsibility asks: What am I going to do now? Those are different questions.And most of us collapse them into one. Someone hurt you.Someone lied.Someone betrayed your trust.Someone handled something poorly.A leader failed.A parent didn’t show up.A spouse shut down.A friend withdrew.A system broke down….
Calm gets praised. It gets rewarded. It gets mistaken for health. But emotional quiet is not always emotional maturity. In this episode, we unpack the difference between true regulation and strategic shutdown, and why some forms of calm are rooted in fear, control, or avoidance. You’ll learn how to tell whether your peace is grounded…
Nothing makes you feel anything. I know that phrase is everywhere.“They made me angry.”“That situation made me anxious.”“He pushed my buttons.” It sounds harmless. It feels accurate. And it is quietly robbing people of agency every single day. Here is the hard truth most of us were never taught:Nothing creates an emotion inside you except…
How in the world are we to the end of 2025 already? I have lived through enough New Year’s to know this much: almost every year is a mixed bag. Some joy. Some grief. Some things you never saw coming. Some things you prayed would never happen. This past year was no different for me….
Recently my son accidentally ruined an entire freezer full of meat. In today’s episode I use this event and my response to it to explain five steps that anyone can use to change their lives. Episode 324 is live. Don’t forget to subscribe and share.
Every day, I sit with people who are desperate to change something in their lives. Their habits. Their relationships. Their patterns. Their choices. Their reactions. Their pain. The specifics vary, but the struggle is the same. They want transformation, and they want it now. But here’s the truth that usually lands like a brick: change…
