Introduction Today, we wrap up our series on effective communication. If you missed the previous posts, you can start with the first one here and find the subsequent posts here and here. In this final installment, we’ll explore the importance of staying focused on one issue until it’s resolved. Most importantly, we’ll discuss the value…
Introduction: This week, I’m continuing my series on the six rules of communication. If you haven’t read rule one, go here. This post will focus on rules two and three. You can also find a great introduction to these rules and how they emerged. These rules are also found in my book, The Emotionally Secure…
Introduction: When I was going through pre-marital counseling with the pastor who would perform our service, he shared four rules with my wife to transform our communication. About two years later, working at a 501c3, I was asked to do some marriage counseling by a couple that was in real trouble. I had no idea…
There is something of a joke amongst marriage and relationship therapists. Everyone we meet, regardless of what is going on in their marriage, just needs to improve their communication. Domestic Violence? Just help us improve our communication. Infidelity? Just help us improve our communication. Financial Issues? Just help us improve our communication. Criminal Enterprise? Just…
Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in another form of media. Be sure to check back every Monday for more posts. Improve every conversation by focusing on controlling what you say.
Then we try to soothe our pain. We try to soothe it by working out or making millions of dollars or getting involved in church. We try to outdo our shame, falsely believing that we can outrun it through activity. The net result becomes a heaping of shame on top of shame. Our activity does not do away with our shame; instead, it numbs our response to it. A numb soul tends to be numb to everything. This causes us to pick activities that keep us from connecting with someone else, which causes us to experience more shame.
Few people are actually chasing an affair at first, they are often chasing other things that lead to the affair. But few people, if they are honest with the themselves, will deny that they knew where it was heading when they jumped on the path.
If you saw yourself in any of these steps, I can’t encourage you enough to seek counseling.
Affairs are terrible storms that leave dark and deep swaths of destruction in their wake.
If we want to find true satisfaction, we will have to start with controlling the things we control and accepting the fact that we don’t control everything. Energy spent trying to control things we can’t control is energy wasted.
Here is my fourth YouTube offering. In this video, I explore the three steps for problem solving. So many couples get into trouble in their conversation because they end up trying to go directly to step #3. Watch the video below and let me know what you think. Thanks.
"We need to improve our communication." Sarah* When I asked her what that meant, she told me that she and her husband Ryan needed to be able to talk in a way that didn't lead to stress between them. I followed that question up with what made her think that their communication needed improvement. Ryan…
