I read a book this weekend that's basic assertion was that almost everyone is "ridiculously in charge" of their life. I tend to agree with that sentiment. I realize people get stuck in jobs that are terrible, marriages that are dying and face other sundry difficulties in life. But I think most of the time…
And so we retreat, back to what we’ve always known. There is a suffocating comfort to it all. Letting go is not easy. The hoarders we see on TV who are stockpiling cats and newspapers have nothing on us emotional hoarders. At least the things they refuse to give up create physical piles before their…
I show this video to almost all of my clients at some point in our journey toward's their wholeness. It is a powerful presentation on the power of vulnerability. Enjoy. Related articles Change, Vulnerability, Shame and Brené Brown Inspiring TED Talks
As a counselor, I am often tasked with helping people create and experience change in their lives. I often walk this road with couples. I often talk to them about the fact that they have to choose to be vulnerable or to not be vulnerable, but without vulnerability I don't know how change happens. The…
I have a new post up at the Creative Solutions Counseling webpage regarding our expectations and how they impact our life. Many times, bad expectations lead to bad experiences. Often because our expectations are just impossible. Here's an excerpt from the post: I so firmly believe that one of the most important questions we can…
I was recently given a book to read regarding tools for life. I want to share a quote with you from the book. “Fear is almost always linked to an image you have of something terrible happening in the future. If I speak up, I’ll fired. If I start my own business, I’ll go bankrupt….
I was having a conversation lately with someone who was stuck in a really bad story. She is dating the same guy over and over again. And while his name has changed, his character has been the same. It’s messing with her head.It’s keeping her up at night. It’s making her feel hollow inside. Then…
Someone once wrote that feelings cannot be disputed because they are experiences. Whereas beliefs can be disputed because they are how we interpret our experiences. I completely agree with this sentiment. I believe its very important to understand the distinction before we try to understand life, we must first seek to understand how we make…
So often we allow our thoughts to run unexamined through our brain. Often those thoughts lead to negative behaviors. Below is a list of 8 limited thinking patterns that I will often explore with clients. They are taken from the book Thoughts & Feelings by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning. It is a…
There’s a guy. I sort of knew him in college. A few months ago (much to my surprise) he friended me on Facebook. Then came Christmas. We disagreed on a certain expression of our faith. He became very upset. He and a few friends let me know that my eternal destination was somewhere other than…
