Recently, I asked a client what they believed about change. They shared this with me and gave me permission to share it with you.
What I believe about change…
Change involves risk.
Change requires courage.
Change requires an acceptance that you don’t have all of the answers.
Change requires a desire to change.
Change requires time and commitment.
Change requires you to do things differently.
Change involves objective thinking.
Change is possible.
What do you believe about change?
Obviously, the counselor is not that well trained and did not get a very good education. Her ears must be plugged, or she’s just a terrible listener. So the client tries again to explain that while he really does need to make a few changes what really needs to happen is:
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