Most people think conflict is the problem. They won’t say that out loud. In fact, most will tell you conflict is necessary for healthy relationships. But watch what they do. They treat it like the plague. They talk about the importance of hard conversations yet quietly structure their lives to avoid them. They tell themselves…
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In last week’s episode on my podcast, I talked about the rule of three. If you haven’t already, you can listen to that episode here. In that episode, I talk about how I worry about the world that I’m leaving my children. I worry about the world that we are leaving our children. If you’re…
In this episode, we’re diving into the art of communication and the magic of intimacy. Join us as we uncover 10 transformative points that will improve how you connect with others and deepen the bonds of intimacy in your relationships. From practical tips on expectations to the importance of vulnerability and emotional posture, each point…
Introduction Today, we wrap up our series on effective communication. If you missed the previous posts, you can start with the first one here and find the subsequent posts here and here. In this final installment, we’ll explore the importance of staying focused on one issue until it’s resolved. Most importantly, we’ll discuss the value…
Introduction: This week, we continue our journey through the six rules of communication. I recommend starting with parts one and two, if you’ve not read them yet. Today, we’ll explore how to engage in conflict once we have identified that there is a problem that needs addressing. I love these ideas because they have been…
Introduction: This week, I’m continuing my series on the six rules of communication. If you haven’t read rule one, go here. This post will focus on rules two and three. You can also find a great introduction to these rules and how they emerged. These rules are also found in my book, The Emotionally Secure…
Introduction: When I was going through pre-marital counseling with the pastor who would perform our service, he shared four rules with my wife to transform our communication. About two years later, working at a 501c3, I was asked to do some marriage counseling by a couple that was in real trouble. I had no idea…
Mike and Ashley came to see me because they wanted their relationship to improve. There were no affairs, and there was no abuse. They just didn’t feel connected. Married for almost 12 years, they had four kids, two dogs, and a lovely house. Their cars were paid off, and they had very little debt. He worked…
We all have arguments and disagreements. It seems to me in the past, we have decided to stop having uncomfortable conversations because they typically go wrong. Here are ten skills that you can start incorporating into difficult conversations right away. I believe they will help us all have better difficult conversations. Seek to understand the…
