Today’s episode is one I wish we never had to record. It’s on a deeply troubling topic: sexual assault and church leadership. Recently, Robert Morris, a pastor of a mega-church in Texas, resigned, citing an “inappropriate relationship with a young lady.” In reality, he groomed and assaulted a twelve-year-old girl. The response has been disheartening,…
Introduction Today, we wrap up our series on effective communication. If you missed the previous posts, you can start with the first one here and find the subsequent posts here and here. In this final installment, we’ll explore the importance of staying focused on one issue until it’s resolved. Most importantly, we’ll discuss the value…
Introduction: When I was going through pre-marital counseling with the pastor who would perform our service, he shared four rules with my wife to transform our communication. About two years later, working at a 501c3, I was asked to do some marriage counseling by a couple that was in real trouble. I had no idea…
In this enlightening episode, join us as we dive into the dynamic interplay between conflict, expectations, and personal growth. Conflict often carries a negative connotation, but what if we reframe it as a catalyst for transformation? Let’s explore how embracing conflict can lead to unexpected opportunities for learning and development. Conflict is one of the…
If we want to find true satisfaction, we will have to start with controlling the things we control and accepting the fact that we don’t control everything. Energy spent trying to control things we can’t control is energy wasted.
Here is my fourth YouTube offering. In this video, I explore the three steps for problem solving. So many couples get into trouble in their conversation because they end up trying to go directly to step #3. Watch the video below and let me know what you think. Thanks.
I was talking to a seasoned couple the other day. They were relaying a story that had happened to them in their everyday life. They were laughing about it. I asked them if they understood how many couples would have been fighting over the very same thing that they were laughing about. The husband looked…
Four questions you should be asking when you find yourself in conflict with a loved one (or anyone for that matter). 1. What do I want in this situation? This one seems so obvious, but I have found many times that people cannot articulate what exactly what it is that they want in a given…
Most of us are not so wise. Fearing the pain involved, almost all of us, to a greater or lesser degree, attempt to avoid problems. We procrastinate, hoping that they will go away. We ignore them, forget them, pretend they do not exist. We even take drugs to assist us in ignoring them, so that…
Conflict is something we all have in life. No matter how good the relationship, people disagree. Typically, we do everything we can to avoid conflict. Some people use aggression to blow the conflict up while others use passiveness and run away. Probably most of us fit somewhere in the middle of those two positions. But…
