There is a really great principle called the The Dependency Paradox. This states that the ability to depend on a close relationship partner when needed actually allows one to operate more autonymously. This means that the more connected you are to someone, the more dependent upon them you are the more freedom you actually have.

This goes so against our culture of independence. We are told so often that we have to seek independence to be happy and free. I wonder if what we actually need to seek is interdependence and vulnerability to be free.

What do you think this would look like in your relationshp?

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