I'm reading the book, The Gifts of imperfection by Bené Brown. I read it now and again. Recently I came across this quote. I think we are living in a risk-free obsessed society and we are paying dearly for it. Almost everything in life "Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult…
I was having a conversation lately with someone who was stuck in a really bad story. She is dating the same guy over and over again. And while his name has changed, his character has been the same. It’s messing with her head.It’s keeping her up at night. It’s making her feel hollow inside. Then…
Someone once wrote that feelings cannot be disputed because they are experiences. Whereas beliefs can be disputed because they are how we interpret our experiences. I completely agree with this sentiment. I believe its very important to understand the distinction before we try to understand life, we must first seek to understand how we make…
There’s a guy. I sort of knew him in college. A few months ago (much to my surprise) he friended me on Facebook. Then came Christmas. We disagreed on a certain expression of our faith. He became very upset. He and a few friends let me know that my eternal destination was somewhere other than…
People who have learned to be content (and from contentment comes happiness) realize that the things that happen outside of them do not control them. …If you know someone who is angry at the world, the best most loving thing you can do is to call them on it.
There's an interesting blog post making the rounds. It's called, "Facebook is making us miserable." Interestingly enough, I found it on facebook. Now, it's on the Harvard Business Review blog, written by a published author who is undoubtedly very smart. This is not an attack on him. It is a complete disagreement with his post…
One of the common issues that I deal with in couples counseling is related to the aftermath of mistakes. A spouse cheats A spouse uses painful words like a scalpel to cut as deeply as possible. An angry outbursts scares the bejezus out of a spouse A secret offense is brought to light. The list…
There has been a song running around in my head recently. In it a young lady sings that someday she's going to live in a big old city but the person that she's singing to is only going to be mean. Besides asking you to not judge me about my music tastes (and what's the…
Many times you will hear people say, "Why does this always happen?!" Sometimes, you will hear them say "this always happens…" And often it seems to be the same song stuck on repeat1. It does seem to always happen. Or not. See, when something repeats itself, I want to know why. Why does it always…
Sometimes, I have people tell me that they cannot help but think the thoughts they have. I often ask them if they believe that they can change thier thoughts. We will often play this simple game that illustrates each person's ability to change his or her thoughts.
