Let’s talk about something we almost all do, but very rarely admit. We believe our problems are special. Not just difficult. Not just painful. Special. Unique. Complex. More complex than other people’s.More unfair.More layered.More uniquely ours. And the moment we start believing that, we quietly hand our problems authority.When we do that, we silently stop…
Blame and responsibility are not the same thing.Blame asks: Who caused this?Responsibility asks: What am I going to do now? Those are different questions.And most of us collapse them into one. Someone hurt you.Someone lied.Someone betrayed your trust.Someone handled something poorly.A leader failed.A parent didn’t show up.A spouse shut down.A friend withdrew.A system broke down….
Recently my son accidentally ruined an entire freezer full of meat. In today’s episode I use this event and my response to it to explain five steps that anyone can use to change their lives. Episode 324 is live. Don’t forget to subscribe and share.
Every day, I sit with people who are desperate to change something in their lives. Their habits. Their relationships. Their patterns. Their choices. Their reactions. Their pain. The specifics vary, but the struggle is the same. They want transformation, and they want it now. But here’s the truth that usually lands like a brick: change…
When life shifts, we like to think we’re being tested, but most of the time, we’re being revealed. Change doesn’t create your character; it exposes it. In this episode, we’ll talk about how turmoil shows what’s really driving you, and how to use those moments to grow instead of spiral. You’ll walk away with practical…
I want to help people.That’s at least part of why I do what I do. I’ve needed help before.I’ve had people show up for me.I’ve also had people who couldn’t help me. But—that wasn’t on them.It was on me. I wasn’t ready to change.More accurately—I wasn’t ready to pay the price change required. I write…
A friend asked me recently,“Why do you always stir the pot?” Fair question. It’s a fair question, and to be honest,I’ve become comfortable discussing the things that people tend to find uncomfortable. But truthfully?I’m not trying to stir anything.I’m trying to name what’s real.Because I’ve sat with too many people wrecked by the things we…
Welcome to episode 269, where we delve into the complexities of faith, community, and authenticity in the modern church and our non-religious friends. Have you ever felt like you didn’t quite fit in at church? You’re not alone. Many churches promote the idea of “Come as you are,” but often, there’s an unspoken expectation to…
Forgiveness helps us deal with the past.
Process allows us to the focus on the future.
In focusing on the future, we shape our present. This is why we must examine what we are focusing on. If you don’t focus on what you want to become (your future), you will become whatever you are focusing on.
If we want to find true satisfaction, we will have to start with controlling the things we control and accepting the fact that we don’t control everything. Energy spent trying to control things we can’t control is energy wasted.
