Yesterday, I was interviewed by a local news agency regarding domestic violence and hero worship. You can see the interview below. By now, you've probably seen the video of Ray Rice knocking his then fiance out. It's a violent and disturbing video. Perhaps more disturbing to me is how we handle the reality of domestic…
The problem is that we all impact each other. Denying that is akin to denying gravity.
Two words can change your relationship? Admit it, you’re a touch skeptical. I admit that I was when the principle was first shared with me. But not now, because now I’ve seen it work. When I was in grad school studying to become a counselor, I would often have people engage me via social media…
This is part three of three in a short series dealing with parent guilt, commonly referred to as mommy guilt. Part one can be found here, and part two can be found here. For all of the parents feeling guilty about being away from their child, I want to offer these four simple steps to…
Is it just me or do you think that assumptions get a bad rap? I'm going crazy busy preparing for this week's Hopes and Dreams Marriage conference and seeing clients, so I don't have a lot of time to flesh this idea out but I want to share something that I am convinced is true….
I have a lot going on in my head. More than is usual for me to have running around up there. Because of this fact, I have more than a few blog posts started but not finished because I can't seem to get them to go cleanly from start to middle to finish. So, today…
So I often have a fun conversation. It goes like this: Me: Well, I’m an introvert Them: No, you’re not. That’s impossible. You speak in front of people and you don’t mind talking to groups. Me: That’s because I’m not shy. But I get my energy from being alone or with a very small group…
As a counselor, I am often tasked with helping people create and experience change in their lives. I often walk this road with couples. I often talk to them about the fact that they have to choose to be vulnerable or to not be vulnerable, but without vulnerability I don't know how change happens. The…
I have been hesitant to enter the Trayvon Martin, George Zimmerman fray. In my opinion, it’s just too emotionally charged to get into it online. Sunday morning, I woke up before anyone else in my family and as is my custom, I checked my email, and did a few other things. Then I checked Facebook….
I have a new post up at the Creative Solutions Counseling webpage regarding our expectations and how they impact our life. Many times, bad expectations lead to bad experiences. Often because our expectations are just impossible. Here's an excerpt from the post: I so firmly believe that one of the most important questions we can…
