*This post is the fictional conversation that is a fairly typical conversation about being heard** Jane and Robert had met in college. They started out hot and heavy. Married a year later, they moved for his job. While they didn’t like his job or the location of where they lived, they loved each…
Continuing on with the idea of looking at other people's writings for some conversation fodder. I thought we would visit my friend Dean Dorman's blog. Dean is a local therapist and I have the privilege of calling this skilled clinician a friend. He has a book coming out in the not so distant future about…
So I have been unable to get any of my own posts up this week. The good news is that our business is extremely busy and there are so many wonderful projects going on that I am literally running from one project to another. That coupled with school, coupled with family has meant that my…
Occasionally, I run into people who will ask me if I know of “one thing” that will improve their marriage? Isn’t there “one thing” we can do that will save our marriage. I almost always tell them no. Then I proceed to tell them that there is many things that they can do that will…
Tonight I’ll be kicking off the 2012 Hopes and Dreams conference. Myself, my wife and a couple of others will travel about an hour from here to meet with thirty to thirty-five couples and talk about relationships. But what is a conference all about? I get this question a lot so I thought I would…
One of the common issues that I deal with in couples counseling is related to the aftermath of mistakes. A spouse cheats A spouse uses painful words like a scalpel to cut as deeply as possible. An angry outbursts scares the bejezus out of a spouse A secret offense is brought to light. The list…
1. "I have a secret bank account." via finance.yahoo.com I found this article to be truthful and disturbing. I am afraid that we are almost conditioned to lie to our spouse's in this day and age.
There is a really great principle called the The Dependency Paradox. This states that the ability to depend on a close relationship partner when needed actually allows one to operate more autonymously. This means that the more connected you are to someone, the more dependent upon them you are the more freedom you actually have….
Love is sacrifice. When we start to demand our rights we have stopped loving our spouse or our kids. When we stop sacrificing, we stop loving. Love goes against logic, which tells us to look out for ourselves first and foremost. Love and sacrifice cannot be seperated. (47)
Perhaps instead of protest signs, we should be taking large mirrors and fake Halloween skeletons to these leader's speeches. Let's hold up the mirrors, to remind them who they're really talking about, when they rail against deception, moral failings and sexual excess. Make the skeletons dance, to let our leaders know that we're not stupid….
