People who attempt change, who want to fight against the status quo of their lives will fail more than people who do not worry about changing. Failure is part of the process. If we are going to successfully change something, we will have to overcome
I often meet people who tell me about their wishes. Sometimes, they call these wishes goals and I call them wishes. They want to do this thing they're talking about…. ……build a business ……start a non-profit …….go back to school …..write a novel ……get healthier ….do something they are…
Sometimes you get knocked down. You're walking along, moving through life and something happens through no fault of your own and you get knocked down. Your parents make a mistake that blows up your life. Your lover cheats Someone you trusted, causes you severe pain and it feels like your word is falling apart. Sometimes…
What the published studies really indicate is that most of the improvement shown by depressed people when they take antidepressants is due to the placebo effect. Our finding that most of the effects of antidepressants could be explained as a placebo effect was only the first
“Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things, I am tempted to think: there are no little things.” — Bruce Barton Related articles Four Questions to ask during a conflict Dealing with the winter blues
I read a book this weekend that's basic assertion was that almost everyone is "ridiculously in charge" of their life. I tend to agree with that sentiment. I realize people get stuck in jobs that are terrible, marriages that are dying and face other sundry difficulties in life. But I think most of the time…
And so we retreat, back to what we’ve always known. There is a suffocating comfort to it all. Letting go is not easy. The hoarders we see on TV who are stockpiling cats and newspapers have nothing on us emotional hoarders. At least the things they refuse to give up create physical piles before their…
I show this video to almost all of my clients at some point in our journey toward's their wholeness. It is a powerful presentation on the power of vulnerability. Enjoy. Related articles Change, Vulnerability, Shame and Brené Brown Inspiring TED Talks
As a counselor, I am often tasked with helping people create and experience change in their lives. I often walk this road with couples. I often talk to them about the fact that they have to choose to be vulnerable or to not be vulnerable, but without vulnerability I don't know how change happens. The…
I have a new post up at the Creative Solutions Counseling webpage regarding our expectations and how they impact our life. Many times, bad expectations lead to bad experiences. Often because our expectations are just impossible. Here's an excerpt from the post: I so firmly believe that one of the most important questions we can…
