I want to lose 50 pounds…. I want to write a novel… I want to travel to France… I want to help children in Africa… I want to start a small business… I want my marriage to be better than it is… I want my relationship with my child/parent to be restored… We all have…
Continuing on with the idea of looking at other people's writings for some conversation fodder. I thought we would visit my friend Dean Dorman's blog. Dean is a local therapist and I have the privilege of calling this skilled clinician a friend. He has a book coming out in the not so distant future about…
As part of my PhD program I feel I am constantly lost in statistics of some sort. I am constantly looking words I don’t actually understand. For the most part, I hate it. But I love statistics. I love that statistics tell us stories. I love stories. I first shared this video over a year…
Someone once wrote that feelings cannot be disputed because they are experiences. Whereas beliefs can be disputed because they are how we interpret our experiences. I completely agree with this sentiment. I believe its very important to understand the distinction before we try to understand life, we must first seek to understand how we make…
People who have learned to be content (and from contentment comes happiness) realize that the things that happen outside of them do not control them. …If you know someone who is angry at the world, the best most loving thing you can do is to call them on it.
I wrote earlier this year about the idea of being the one who wronged someone. That post can be found here. That post deal with five specific things that someone who has wronged another can do and some issues to be aware of during the restoration process. But what about the person who was wronged?…
Our lives are driven by our assumptions. What can be troublesome is the fact that we often do not stop to consider what our assumptions are and they impact us. For instance, couples often assume that conflict is bad. They will often say things to me like, "We never fight!", or "We've never had a…
One of the issues I deal with a lot in my practice is the issue of parenting and discipline. I believe that many parents want to do a good job when it comes to raising their children but they are unsure how to best go about doing that. One of the areas that often comes…
Many times you will hear people say, "Why does this always happen?!" Sometimes, you will hear them say "this always happens…" And often it seems to be the same song stuck on repeat1. It does seem to always happen. Or not. See, when something repeats itself, I want to know why. Why does it always…
