I was recently given a book to read regarding tools for life. I want to share a quote with you from the book. “Fear is almost always linked to an image you have of something terrible happening in the future. If I speak up, I’ll fired. If I start my own business, I’ll go bankrupt….
I was having a conversation lately with someone who was stuck in a really bad story. She is dating the same guy over and over again. And while his name has changed, his character has been the same. It’s messing with her head.It’s keeping her up at night. It’s making her feel hollow inside. Then…
Someone once wrote that feelings cannot be disputed because they are experiences. Whereas beliefs can be disputed because they are how we interpret our experiences. I completely agree with this sentiment. I believe its very important to understand the distinction before we try to understand life, we must first seek to understand how we make…
So often we allow our thoughts to run unexamined through our brain. Often those thoughts lead to negative behaviors. Below is a list of 8 limited thinking patterns that I will often explore with clients. They are taken from the book Thoughts & Feelings by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning. It is a…
There’s a guy. I sort of knew him in college. A few months ago (much to my surprise) he friended me on Facebook. Then came Christmas. We disagreed on a certain expression of our faith. He became very upset. He and a few friends let me know that my eternal destination was somewhere other than…
Yesterday I wrote about the fact that we are telling a story with our life. We are producing a movie in real time. Sometimes that story is not so good. Sometimes we tell a bad story. We get caught in things that do not matter or plot lines that are toxic, corrosive and destructive. In…
People who have learned to be content (and from contentment comes happiness) realize that the things that happen outside of them do not control them. …If you know someone who is angry at the world, the best most loving thing you can do is to call them on it.
There has been a song running around in my head recently. In it a young lady sings that someday she's going to live in a big old city but the person that she's singing to is only going to be mean. Besides asking you to not judge me about my music tastes (and what's the…
Of course, most people don’t bother to write down their goals. Instead, they drift through life aimlessly, wondering why their life lacks purpose and significance. I am not saying that committing your goals to writing is the end-game. It’s not. But it is the beginning. via michaelhyatt.com The internet is a fun and wide open…
Many times you will hear people say, "Why does this always happen?!" Sometimes, you will hear them say "this always happens…" And often it seems to be the same song stuck on repeat1. It does seem to always happen. Or not. See, when something repeats itself, I want to know why. Why does it always…
