Three Steps to Better Emotional Hygiene
If you embrace that life is hard, your life will be different, not because it’s magically easier but because embracing the expectation that life is hard helps us transcend the hardness of life.
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Your life is written by the choices you make: Thoughts provoked by Hamilton the Musical
My daughter asked me what I thought about the musical and I told her that I loved it because I believe there are only two stories ever told; stories of brokenness and stories of redemption. Sometimes, both brokenness and redemption are weaved throughout the story.
To me, that is what makes Hamilton so profound. It tells the story of brokenness and redemption. It shows the messiness that is life.
A simple life-hack to be happier
I live in the North. And it's January. In the North in January, there isn't a lot of sunshine. And a lot of people feel that they are more depressed in the winter at least in part because of that reality. You leave the house and it's dark. You leave work and it's dark. It…
How do we develop our feelings?
If I asked you how a person came to feelings, you would probably believe that the following steps are the process for how we go from an event to a feeling is something like this: Something happens I have a belief about what happened. I have an emotional reaction (a feeling or emotion) to what…
Who are you? An excerpt from the book that I am working on.
Who are you? Who are you? Take a few moments and compose your answer. What did you say? Did you talk about your job? Your children, your spouse? How much of it revolved around what you do? How much ran through your mind that you didn’t actually say or put down? Did you think something and then think you needed
Forgiveness and Process: Who are you becoming?
Forgiveness helps us deal with the past.
Process allows us to the focus on the future.
In focusing on the future, we shape our present. This is why we must examine what we are focusing on. If you don’t focus on what you want to become (your future), you will become whatever you are focusing on.
Goals: Why most don’t work and how yours can
People who attempt change, who want to fight against the status quo of their lives will fail more than people who do not worry about changing. Failure is part of the process. If we are going to successfully change something, we will have to overcome
If you want to start something new, you’ll need to stop something old
I often meet people who tell me about their wishes. Sometimes, they call these wishes goals and I call them wishes. They want to do this thing they're talking about…. ……build a business ……start a non-profit …….go back to school …..write a novel ……get healthier ….do something they are…
Get back up and fight
Sometimes you get knocked down. You're walking along, moving through life and something happens through no fault of your own and you get knocked down. Your parents make a mistake that blows up your life. Your lover cheats Someone you trusted, causes you severe pain and it feels like your word is falling apart. Sometimes…
Do Anti-Depressant Meds work?
What the published studies really indicate is that most of the improvement shown by depressed people when they take antidepressants is due to the placebo effect. Our finding that most of the effects of antidepressants could be explained as a placebo effect was only the first