Recently my son accidentally ruined an entire freezer full of meat. In today’s episode I use this event and my response to it to explain five steps that anyone can use to change their lives. Episode 324 is live. Don’t forget to subscribe and share.
Every day, I sit with people who are desperate to change something in their lives. Their habits. Their relationships. Their patterns. Their choices. Their reactions. Their pain. The specifics vary, but the struggle is the same. They want transformation, and they want it now. But here’s the truth that usually lands like a brick: change…
A few years ago, I sat across from a man in my office who said, “I’ve tried everything, Joe. Nothing works. I’m just wired this way.” He wasn’t being dramatic. He was tired. His marriage was falling apart, his anxiety was eating him alive, and he was exhausted from trying to “get better.” You could…
I worry that we have killed sadness. Maybe I just worry that we think we have killed sadness. Let me explain what I mean. It seems that everywhere you look, depression is up today. In fact, while preparing to write this post, I googled if numbers were up and the very first link had the…
In last week’s episode on my podcast, I talked about the rule of three. If you haven’t already, you can listen to that episode here. In that episode, I talk about how I worry about the world that I’m leaving my children. I worry about the world that we are leaving our children. If you’re…
Last week, I wrote about how you cannot help someone change who doesn’t want to change. You can read that here. Today, let’s talk about another truth—one that’s more hopeful. Here’s a truth we have to hold onto—keep close when life gets heavy. Even when—we’re wrestling with the weightof loving someone who won’t move forward….
I want to help people.That’s at least part of why I do what I do. I’ve needed help before.I’ve had people show up for me.I’ve also had people who couldn’t help me. But—that wasn’t on them.It was on me. I wasn’t ready to change.More accurately—I wasn’t ready to pay the price change required. I write…
Have you ever had two pieces of information—but no bridge between them?So you built one.Filled in the gap.Connected the dots.Only to find out later…you got it wrong? You’re not alone. Malcolm Gladwell wrote an entire book on it called Talking to Strangers.Turns out, we’re wrong as often as we’re rightwhen we fill in the blanks.Our…
We all say we want change.But when it’s time to move—to actually do something, most people stall. Not because they’re lazy. Not because they’re incapable.Because they don’t know where to start. This is Part 3 in a series about change: What is required to change? I imagine some of my friends felt a quick snag…
Let’s talk about what it looks like to change. This is Part 2 in a 3-part series on change. So—what does it look like to want change? That’s the million-dollar question.Literally.We’re investing more than ever in mental health.More therapy.More coaching.More tools. But how are we doing? Are we changing—or just circling the same struggles in…
