Did you know that The Emotionally Secure Couple book comes with a webpage dedicated as a resource site? You can find questions for a deeper discussion after each chapter. You can find videos where my wife and I illustrate necessary skills for good communication. Check it out! It's today's Media Monday. You can find it…
Relationships are hard They can have painful experiences. Those painful experiences from past experiences can cast shadows into our current relationships. People are complicated messes. Even, perhaps especially, the people we love. Often, when I'm working with a couple I will see a phenomenon I call "Hall Pass." When they are feeling their loved ones…
One of my favorite TED talks is this one by Shawn Achor. I quote this talk to many people and I often have clients watch it repeatedly. Give it a watch. Maybe part of your life will be changed. Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in…
Recently, my wife and I went out to dinner with friends. I was telling a story about how there was someone I had to interact with regularly, but I didn’t trust the person. The wife asked, “is this us?” I replied, “Yes, that’s exactly why we go out to dinner with you guys regularly.” I…
Life is hard. Really hard. We can create a culture of encouragement. Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in another form of media. It's designed to help cross multiple learning styles.
In our ever increasingly busy society, I fear that we are losing time to educate and learn about relationships. And because of this, our relationships are suffering. Things like personal, emotional and feeling regulation are minimized. As humans, we crave relationships. And for some reason, we seem to be getting worse at doing something healthy…
So many people want to change but feel as though they are stuck forever in the same repetitive and destructive cycles. This podcast episode deals with the necessary process to change. Find it here.
What’s even better than changed behavior is not having to put a fire out.
So what’s my wife’s rule? Well, you’ve probably figured it out by now, but just in case you have not, here it is.
When you hear something, does your mind tend to run to the negative or the positive? This video deals with how you can train yourself to be more free by looking at things with generous assumptions. In the absence of facts to cause you to look elsewhere, consider the benefit of pursuing the most generous…
This past Sunday I was taking my daughter to practice driving. We were driving down the main road here in town and my wife and I were texting (my daughter was driving) and she sent me a text, "Did you hear Kobe Bryant died this morning in a helicopter crash?" At first, I thought maybe…
