Love is sacrifice. When we start to demand our rights we have stopped loving our spouse or our kids. When we stop sacrificing, we stop loving. Love goes against logic, which tells us to look out for ourselves first and foremost. Love and sacrifice cannot be seperated. (47)
Dr. Gregory L Jantz’s book, Hope, Help and Healing for Eating Disorders deals with both “eating disorders” and “disordered eating.” As a Counselor I was immediately drawn to this book. It seems in our society, overweight people are the last people group that it is OK to mock and make fun of for our enjoyment….
"Many students lack acceptance of internal events like sadness, anger and anxiety," says Jacqueline Pistorello, Ph.D., of the University of Nevada at Reno. She sees such widespread problem behaviors as drinking and self-cutting as attempts by students to dissipate sadness and anxiety. College mental health directors report that the last four years has seen a…
Bowlby (1969) theorized that there were four interrelated behavioral systems that govern human behavior – attachment, caregiving, exploration, and sex. Of these, Bowlby recognized the attachment system, which moti- vates children and adults to seek safety and security through close contact with attachment figures, as being of primary importance in regulating the other systems. ~Taken…
If you are licensed to counsel people in the fine state of Michigan, I am excited to announce that Creative Solutions Counseling is looking for Associates. If you want the benefit of having your own practice and the opportunities and companionship that come with not having to do it alone, shoot me an email. We…
One of the central facets of addiction is the unwillingness to take responsibility. Without exercising the all-important watershed of self-responsibility, breaking the compulsive cycle that leads to addictive behavior is all but impossible. Systems like AA or the Minnesota Model, which allow the abdication of self-responsibility to The Program, The Meeting, The Sponsor and even…
But what about the unhealthy emotional and relational expectations portrayed in so much of our media? Is there really much of a difference in the hyperbolized sexual imagery of typical pornography and the hyperbolized momentary emotional high felt in a romance film or romantic comedy that sends us looking for a “love” that doesn’t exist?…
People who have control issues are usually trying to live a pain free life. (14)
Sometimes, I have people tell me that they cannot help but think the thoughts they have. I often ask them if they believe that they can change thier thoughts. We will often play this simple game that illustrates each person's ability to change his or her thoughts.
I found this video via Jonathon Brink. I found the thoughts in it to be honest, real and quite frankly amazing. One of my favorite quotes is, "When you ask people about love, they will tell you about breakup." Enjoy!
