In today’s fast-paced society, there is immense pressure on parents to ensure that their children are involved in every sport, extracurricular activity, and academic pursuit available. This “superparent” mentality often leads to overscheduled children and exhausted families. I can’t tell you how many couples I’ve met whose relationship has died, having been sacrificed on the…
Marriage is often described as a journey involving growth, challenges, and profound companionship. However, amid the daily routines of work, children, bills, and household chores, it’s easy for the relationship between spouses to shift from passionate to pragmatic. This shift doesn’t signify the absence of love but rather the gradual fading of the exciting romance…
Introduction Today, we wrap up our series on effective communication. If you missed the previous posts, you can start with the first one here and find the subsequent posts here and here. In this final installment, we’ll explore the importance of staying focused on one issue until it’s resolved. Most importantly, we’ll discuss the value…
There is something of a joke amongst marriage and relationship therapists. Everyone we meet, regardless of what is going on in their marriage, just needs to improve their communication. Domestic Violence? Just help us improve our communication. Infidelity? Just help us improve our communication. Financial Issues? Just help us improve our communication. Criminal Enterprise? Just…
In this video, I discuss three necessary steps for problem solving that all healthy relationships utilize. I blogged about it here for those that prefer reading. Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in another form of media. It's designed to help cross multiple learning styles.
If we want to find true satisfaction, we will have to start with controlling the things we control and accepting the fact that we don’t control everything. Energy spent trying to control things we can’t control is energy wasted.
The truth is your marriage, my friend’s marriage and my marriage is mortal. They can all die, which is why we must be vigilant in protecting our marriages. We must cultivate them.
When things are going ravishingly well, we must work at it. When dry and difficult times come we must work at it.
Admitting that our bodies are mortal does not mean that we want to die prematurely. The same is true for marriages. When I was married I made a promise to stay that way until death separated us and I meant it.
Denying that my marriage is mortal doesn’t make that promise any stronger. It does not make my marriage stronger, in fact I think it makes it more vulnerable.
Yesterday, I was interviewed by a local news agency regarding domestic violence and hero worship. You can see the interview below. By now, you've probably seen the video of Ray Rice knocking his then fiance out. It's a violent and disturbing video. Perhaps more disturbing to me is how we handle the reality of domestic…
Sometimes, people will ask me why I fight so hard to keep marriages together, even when the marriage is in obvious trouble. This quote is from the book, The Unexpecteded Legacy of Divorce, and it articulates well one of the many reasons I engage in this fight. It explains why I am so passionate about…
In honor of my fifteen year anniversary today here are fifteen things that I think I've learned over the last fifteen years: Marriage is the greatest thing I have ever done. My life is incredibly enriched because of my marriage. I am a different and better man because of my marriage. Marriage is the hardest…
