"We need to improve our communication." Sarah* When I asked her what that meant, she told me that she and her husband Ryan needed to be able to talk in a way that didn't lead to stress between them. I followed that question up with what made her think that their communication needed improvement. Ryan…
Recently a friend of mine had a firestorm of conversation erupt on a post she made on social media. Few of the contributors stopped to consider what lens they were using to understand the post and how that was impacting their statements.While there were many words, there was little communication. Watch this video to learn…
I consistently run into people who dislike their life Usually with a passion. And yet, they make zero changes. They do the same things over and over again. As if their life is written out for them and no matter what they attempt, they are stuck living a life they hate. This is patently false….
This video is from my YouTube page regarding ways every conversation can be improved. Conversations about conflict can be hard, and this won't make them easier, but it will give help you make it more productive. Watch it and let me know what you think. Related articles It's not what happens, it's how we attach…
One of the most common things I see in life is people enslaved by their mistakes.
The other day I was reading a pretty good article. It was about parents being better parents. Good stuff. This is a topic that interests me. Partly, because I’m a parent and partly because I need to know about it to be good at my job. He talked about parents doing parenting things. It was…
I want to answer one of the most common questions about my marriage conference. Vlog #1 from Joe Martino on Vimeo.
Faith is problematic because it requires us to embrace the mess. In the rawness of faith, we must embrace the idea that there things we cannot see and hope means we may have to wait. Waiting is often hard and sometimes, painful. But faith and hope are worth it.
To a greater or lesser degree, all people suffer from inadequacies of their flexible response systems. Much of the work of psychotherapy consists of attempting to help our patients allow or make their response systems become more flexible. Peck, M. Scott
When stress enters the narratives of a relationship, people are often tempted to try and jump directly to problem solving. This is problematic because they are often not in the right place to effectively problem solve. Try the two steps listed below, first. Three Things that Every Healthy Couple Does: 1. De-escalate stress points. In…
