Lately, a growing number of people argue that therapy is nothing more than endless conversation. The word “ruminating” is thrown around like a curse. But is that really what therapy boils down to? Is counseling just rehashing our problems? Is good therapy simply sitting and dwelling on what’s wrong? I strongly believe it’s much more than that—otherwise, I wouldn’t be in this field. In this episode, let’s explore what therapy truly is and why it goes beyond just talking.

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