Have you heard about the now clinic coming to Grand Rapids? Sometimes, you need to be heard today.
The truth is your marriage, my friend’s marriage and my marriage is mortal. They can all die, which is why we must be vigilant in protecting our marriages. We must cultivate them.
When things are going ravishingly well, we must work at it. When dry and difficult times come we must work at it.
Admitting that our bodies are mortal does not mean that we want to die prematurely. The same is true for marriages. When I was married I made a promise to stay that way until death separated us and I meant it.
Denying that my marriage is mortal doesn’t make that promise any stronger. It does not make my marriage stronger, in fact I think it makes it more vulnerable.
Introduction: This week, I’m continuing my series on the six rules of communication. If you haven’t read rule one, go here. This post will focus on rules two and three. You can also find a great introduction to these rules and how they emerged. These rules are also found in my book, The Emotionally Secure…
If you are licensed to counsel people in the fine state of Michigan, I am excited to announce that Creative Solutions Counseling is looking for Associates. If you want the benefit of having your own practice and the opportunities and companionship that come with not having to do it alone, shoot me an email. We…
How effective is counseling? That's a great question that I think a lot of people often ask. It can seem like just a bunch of talking and not much else perhaps. But according to G. Corey in Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotheraphy, research indicates that the "average treated client is better off than…
If I asked you how a person came to feelings, you would probably believe that the following steps are the process for how we go from an event to a feeling is something like this: Something happens I have a belief about what happened. I have an emotional reaction (a feeling or emotion) to what…
One of the central facets of addiction is the unwillingness to take responsibility. Without exercising the all-important watershed of self-responsibility, breaking the compulsive cycle that leads to addictive behavior is all but impossible. Systems like AA or the Minnesota Model, which allow the abdication of self-responsibility to The Program, The Meeting, The Sponsor and even…
