Attuned to disappointment and confused about its source, we wind up discarding perfectly good relationships. People work themselves up over "the ordinary problems of marriage, for which, by the way, they usually fail to see their own contributions,"
This is a long and interesting article. I think the money quote is quoted above. So many couples are willing to throw away a relationship over what are considered "ordinary problems." Couples do not have to agree on everything. Enjoy reading.
Most of us are not so wise. Fearing the pain involved, almost all of us, to a greater or lesser degree, attempt to avoid problems. We procrastinate, hoping that they will go away. We ignore them, forget them, pretend they do not exist. We even take drugs to assist us in ignoring them, so that…
Part one can be found here. Part two can be found here. Focus on the positives If you are fighting with your spouse a lot, chances are good that you are focusing on the negatives. Let’s say that your husband has been promising to get something done in the backyard for months. You keep bringing…
How effective is counseling? That's a great question that I think a lot of people often ask. It can seem like just a bunch of talking and not much else perhaps. But according to G. Corey in Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotheraphy, research indicates that the "average treated client is better off than…
The following is an expert from The Emotionally Secure Couple. Chapter 8 deals with conflict. The book can be bought wherever quality books are sold and at our offices. Storytellers love conflict. Seriously. Think about our modern-day bards—they all tell tales of high conflict. This conflict gives the hero or heroine in the story purpose…
People who have learned to be content (and from contentment comes happiness) realize that the things that happen outside of them do not control them. …If you know someone who is angry at the world, the best most loving thing you can do is to call them on it.
Don’t worry about how other people will perceive it. I recently talked with a woman about her current self-view and childhood. She related to me the story of her high school math class. It was the day she would find out if she had done enough to pass her class. She had worked as hard…
