Dates have to be adaptive. If you have children, this is just a reality of life. You cannot expect life to continue at your pace. If you don’t have children, you still know what I’m talking about. This past week, my wife and I planned our first date for the challenge early in the week….
So we want to do something fun for the summer. One of the things that we believe is that couples need to date more. So we are challenging you to do the 46 challenge. The idea is that you will have 4 dates in 6 weeks with your spouse. If you’re willing to do it,…
Are you a slave? It seems absurd to ask that question, doesn’t it? Some may even think it seems too insensitive given the number of actual slaves in the world today. But let me explain. I have seen countless people come through my office doors who are slaves. Some are willing slaves. Some recognize that…
This is the first part in a series on relational equity. This is actually a chapter directly out of my book that I’m working on. I imagine some of the things I have to say in this section will be somewhat controversial. That is not my intent. This is a key to a healthy relationship….
Recently, I was contacted by another therapist regarding a consultation. This is what she said to me in almost verbatim. In the past, we’ve had too much of men being able to judge women and make them feel… “less” but today we’re encouraging it in women. Rather than solving the problem, we’re just teaching women…
We are a heard deprived society. Take a moment and list out how many people you feel have really heard you over the years? Not just the words coming out of your mouth but the emotion and soul behind those words. How long is the list? When I ask clients this question, I am often…
I have been having a lot of fun conversations lately with a variety of people. It all started with a radio show. I commute a fair distance, so I hear a lot of radio and the truth is that I get a little tired of music so I listen to stations that have more talking….
What do you think of when you hear the words Lady Gaga? I’m betting that you don’t think of someone who defends the need to commit to marriage. Yet, the other day I’m driving into work and I hear about an interview where LG did just that. She had the temerity to say that divorce…
I want to lose 50 pounds…. I want to write a novel… I want to travel to France… I want to help children in Africa… I want to start a small business… I want my marriage to be better than it is… I want my relationship with my child/parent to be restored… We all have…
Yesterday, I asked, what is the one thing? What do you believe is that one thing necessary for a happy marriage. I promised that I would answer the question today, so here it is. My answer to the question is emotional security. If you have emotional security, you will have a relationship that will not…
