I have a lot of things that I am excited to share with you over this upcoming year. But I'm kicking off the school year with a series that I did last year regarding what I think is a dangerous mentality of “everyone wins.” This series is designed to create some conversation on what it…
Unless, you’ve been secluded from society this weekend, you learned that Whitney Houston died this weekend. I don’t know why and to be honest, I’m ok not knowing. This post really isn’t about Whitney. Have you ever had someone force a plot on you that you didn’t feel was fair? They assigned motives to your…
A constant theme in mental health that I have written about is that what happens to you is less important than how you make sense of what happens to you. This is a very important concept. So important, I want to write it again. What happens to you is not as important as how you…
Someone once wrote that feelings cannot be disputed because they are experiences. Whereas beliefs can be disputed because they are how we interpret our experiences. I completely agree with this sentiment. I believe its very important to understand the distinction before we try to understand life, we must first seek to understand how we make…
In my last post, I talked about the pressures and stress of the holidays. I would like to talk about how to handle the stress of the holiday expectations. It is what it is. Often our stress comes from unspoken and usually unmet expectations. Try just accepting that your holiday is what it is this…
Christmas is six days away! My wife's birthday is tomorrow! My kids are on break. Life is good. Last Christmas, I worked at the hospital. This year, I have it off and even my school requirements are minimal. But what about you? Chances are good that if there is more than a few people reading…
"Most likely the in your life, the problem is not the problem. The way you are dealing with the problem is actually the problem." ~Robert Lehman, PhD, LPC (27)
Sometimes, I have people tell me that they cannot help but think the thoughts they have. I often ask them if they believe that they can change thier thoughts. We will often play this simple game that illustrates each person's ability to change his or her thoughts.
Everyone has anxiety and stress. It is in how you have prepared for it and how you deal with that matters. Very rarely is the "event" actually an emergency or insurmountable obstacle. Our reactions to or lack of preparation for stressful situations are what we need to monitor. It is important to be able to…
The overriding reason for the surge in serious problems on campus is that college is the age of depression. Depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety and other serious mental conditions first rear their head in late adolescence. Also, colleges are harvesting the first crop of kids who grew up on Prozac and other new-wave antidepressants. The drugs…
