"Most likely the in your life, the problem is not the problem. The way you are dealing with the problem is actually the problem."
~Robert Lehman, PhD, LPC (27)
"Most likely the in your life, the problem is not the problem. The way you are dealing with the problem is actually the problem."
~Robert Lehman, PhD, LPC (27)
Forgiveness is only effective when we walk in it. Both people have to walk in it. The person doing the forgiving must give up the hurt, anger and the need for revenge, while the person being forgiven must give up the desire to justify or live in the guilt. Forgiveness is both a one time…
Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked….
When one accepts that anxiety is a natural reaction of our bodies, a profound shift in perspective occurs. Rather than viewing anxiety as a flaw or something to be eradicated, it becomes understood as an inherent aspect of the human experience. This acceptance opens the door to self-compassion and understanding. Instead of fighting against anxiety,…
Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. So many times around the holidays people will allow themselves to be in a destructive situation because they want to reconcile with a family member that has hurt or abandoned them. They mistake the idea of reconciliation—which takes both parties with forgiveness. Forgiveness only involves one party. Forgiving a person…
In relationships, you always have to choose between influence and control. (9)
My friend Michelle Luce sent me an article she wrote on this topic today. In it she shares the following quote. “But if you gush over mediocrity, there’s no way to distinguish truly outstanding. If the losers get the same trophies as the winners, what’s the point of even trying?”http://changingminds.org/articles/articles11/why_giving_trophy.htm ~Lisa Earle McLeod