When Cindy Clemishire was twelve years old, a family friend and church pastor began sexually assaulting her. Five years later, she told her family. Roughly three decades later, the story went public. In those intervening years, her abuser expressed remorse over “having an inappropriate relationship” with a woman other than his wife.He never mentioned that…
Tomorrow, my interview with Cindy Clemshire will be published.I’ve received feedback from some who question why I’m doing this interview, and a few have even suggested that I shouldn’t. I want to take a moment to explain why I believe this interview is not only important but necessary. This interview is not an attack on…
This past Sunday I was taking my daughter to practice driving. We were driving down the main road here in town and my wife and I were texting (my daughter was driving) and she sent me a text, "Did you hear Kobe Bryant died this morning in a helicopter crash?" At first, I thought maybe…
Nothing in life will invite us to more regret than parenting. There are so many times, that no matter how it plays out, you and I will be tempted to think about the 3 million other ways we could have gone. But what happens when you know you really made a mistake? I address that…
Forgiveness helps us deal with the past.
Process allows us to the focus on the future.
In focusing on the future, we shape our present. This is why we must examine what we are focusing on. If you don’t focus on what you want to become (your future), you will become whatever you are focusing on.
I'm always fascinated by the topic of forgiveness and how it works out in every day life. As a therapist, I can honestly say that it is perhaps the most troubling thing for many of my clients to face. Not their abuse, not their affairs, not their brokenness but the brokenness of others that has…
Tom sat in my driveway his car idling softly as he looked at me and poured his heart out about the rejection he felt because of his father. Tom was torn, he felt a natural desire to fix things with his father and something else. He explained to me how his wife was mad at…
I have been hesitant to enter the Trayvon Martin, George Zimmerman fray. In my opinion, it’s just too emotionally charged to get into it online. Sunday morning, I woke up before anyone else in my family and as is my custom, I checked my email, and did a few other things. Then I checked Facebook….
Are you a slave? It seems absurd to ask that question, doesn’t it? Some may even think it seems too insensitive given the number of actual slaves in the world today. But let me explain. I have seen countless people come through my office doors who are slaves. Some are willing slaves. Some recognize that…
Recently I had a conversation with a friend from another city. He essentially said, “I want to forgive, but how do I forget?” This is a comment lament when the conversation turns to forgiveness. How exactly am I supposed to forget the hurt that has been done to me. We’ve all heard the trite statement,…
