"Do not waste time bothering whether you 'love' your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him." (46) ~C.S. Lewis I think this is true of every relationship…
One of things that parents complain to me about is that their kids don’t seem to understand _______________. Once, I get past the frustration level, what I usually find is that parents are bothered by the facts that their kids don’t think like little adults. They are frustrated because their kids don’t seem to have…
What does it meant to be heard? I believe that one of life’s core questions is “Am I being heard?” The obvious question is what does that mean? Here is a short post from my book that I’m working on seeking to begin to answer this question. We all seek to be heard beyond simply…
Friday Book review: Legacy by Grant Stoye This book was written by a friend's husband so of course, when it came out, I picked it up. Available in e-format, Legacy is a great read! If you like family friendly fiction, this is the book for you. It won't change your life. You won't have…
This letter was sent to me today. Enjoy. I remember the first day I called Creative Solutions Counseling, I was down and out. My fiancee at the time and I have been running our relationship into the ground and although we said we loved each other, we surly wouldn’t of stayed married at the rate…
I am a father. I have daughters. I am also a counselor. I see abusive relationships nearly every day in my business. A number of years ago a professor of mine gave me a list that he had compiled of red flag characteristics of abusers. Most of the time, it is the “he” that is…
What do you think of when you hear the words Lady Gaga? I’m betting that you don’t think of someone who defends the need to commit to marriage. Yet, the other day I’m driving into work and I hear about an interview where LG did just that. She had the temerity to say that divorce…
This post is the first in a randomly posted series of “Friday Book Reviews.” If you have a book that you would like me to review, let me know and maybe I’ll add it to my list. The Hunger Games has caused quite a stir in my little corner of the world. I saw comment…
Our tragedy today is a general and universal physical fear so long sustained by now that we can even bear it. There are no longer problems of the spirit. There is only the question: When will I be blown up? Because of this, the young man or woman writing today has forgotten the problems of…
When you die, what do you think you’ll regret? I doubt you will regret the risks you took. I even doubt you’ll regret the risks you took that ended in failure. By now, I imagine you’ve seen this article. Here are the top five regrets listed by the nurse. She says that people tell her…
