Great quote! "We tend to add complexities to our challenges because if the problem is simple to solve, then we have to change. And change is scary. So when faced with a challenge we really don’t want to fix, we tend to overcomplicate the issues." (43) Acuff, Jon (2013-04-23). Start: Punch Fear in the Face,…
As a counselor, I am often tasked with helping people create and experience change in their lives. I often walk this road with couples. I often talk to them about the fact that they have to choose to be vulnerable or to not be vulnerable, but without vulnerability I don't know how change happens. The…
This one seems to be so obvious but it amazes me how often people don’t seem to get it. Dates have to happen. Couples that date, I mean really date are far more secure than couples that don’t. Of course, what does it mean to really date? Too many couples go on a date and…
Our first question has been selected for Joe Knows. Here’s how it works: People submit a question. A question is chosen at random by someone associated with me (or me) solely at our discretion. The question is posted and you our readers are given a week to answer and offer advice. One week after the…
Recently, I had a fun talk with a friend. I was talking about my upcoming day. “I’m going to take my wife to do a little necessary shopping, then take her for a pedicure and my girls to get their nails painted.” “At a nail salon?” “Yep,” I replied preparing to move onto the next…
Dates have to be adaptive. If you have children, this is just a reality of life. You cannot expect life to continue at your pace. If you don’t have children, you still know what I’m talking about. This past week, my wife and I planned our first date for the challenge early in the week….
Being in the people helping business is one of the most interesting tightropes I have ever walked. On the one hand, I want to help people. On the other hand, I want to pay my bills. I have a bias towards the actual field of counseling. Not all counseling is done by counselors. Some is…
Amy Warner Radford kicked us off a few months ago talking about our faith communities and handling mental illness. You can read that post here. Today's post is from the newly married Rebekah Holman Clarke. Rebeckah is in the process of opening her own consulting firm. Today, she shares with us some salient and much…
I have been hesitant to enter the Trayvon Martin, George Zimmerman fray. In my opinion, it’s just too emotionally charged to get into it online. Sunday morning, I woke up before anyone else in my family and as is my custom, I checked my email, and did a few other things. Then I checked Facebook….
Many people that I talk to agree that a regular dating life is important for the health of their relationship. They also often admit that they don’t go on enough dates and many even tell me that they rarely go on dates. I think part of that is because dating can be hard to coordinate…
