Sometimes, people will ask me why I fight so hard to keep marriages together, even when the marriage is in obvious trouble. This quote is from the book, The Unexpecteded Legacy of Divorce, and it articulates well one of the many reasons I engage in this fight. It explains why I am so passionate about…
Actions are not always words, but words are almost always actions. Choose both carefully. They either build relationships or they tear them down. Pretending that words are just words is a silly dodge. (33)
After collecting thousands of stories, I’m willing to call this a fact: A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all women, men, and children. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as…
Tom sat in my driveway his car idling softly as he looked at me and poured his heart out about the rejection he felt because of his father. Tom was torn, he felt a natural desire to fix things with his father and something else. He explained to me how his wife was mad at…
In honor of my fifteen year anniversary today here are fifteen things that I think I've learned over the last fifteen years: Marriage is the greatest thing I have ever done. My life is incredibly enriched because of my marriage. I am a different and better man because of my marriage. Marriage is the hardest…
Continuing from last Monday’s post regarding anti-depressants. Here is a segment video talking to a researcher and doctor who is leading the charge to bring more conversation to our understanding of these drugs and how they work. If the video doesn’t show, click here.
If we are going to be truly happy, we have to learn to be content. Most of the time, we fixate on our lack of happiness thinking that we can become happier by getting that thing, whatever that thing is. We cannot worship at the alter of happiness and truly expect to be happy. Happiness…
What the published studies really indicate is that most of the improvement shown by depressed people when they take antidepressants is due to the placebo effect. Our finding that most of the effects of antidepressants could be explained as a placebo effect was only the first
I’m afraid these shows highlight out societies obsession with the wrong things. We use the TV to anesthetize our own existential issues. We can safely sit on our couch and watch Mary Jane Watson from Tacoma West Virginia and thank God that our house isn’t as messy as hers. We can watch Gwen Jones from Bloomsburg, Minnesota struggle to go from “morbidly obese” to anorexic like skinniness all in the name of health.
There is no greater invitation to regret than parenting. Join me for a one day free event to discuss parentings up and downs. This conference will look at the “why’s” of parental decison as much as the “what’s”. You can register by clicking here.
