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Your life is written by the choices you make: Thoughts provoked by Hamilton the Musical

ByJoe Martino March 5, 2020November 30, 2023

My daughter asked me what I thought about the musical and I told her that I loved it because I believe there are only two stories ever told; stories of brokenness and stories of redemption. Sometimes, both brokenness and redemption are weaved throughout the story.
To me, that is what makes Hamilton so profound. It tells the story of brokenness and redemption. It shows the messiness that is life.

Media Monday (12). The Emotionally Secure Couple Website

ByJoe Martino March 2, 2020

Did you know that The Emotionally Secure Couple book comes with a webpage dedicated as a resource site? You can find questions for a deeper discussion after each chapter. You can find videos where my wife and I illustrate necessary skills for good communication. Check it out! It's today's Media Monday. You can find it…

Family | Relationships

Do you give yourself a hall pass

ByJoe Martino February 27, 2020

Relationships are hard They can have painful experiences. Those painful experiences from past experiences can cast shadows into our current relationships. People are complicated messes. Even, perhaps especially, the people we love. Often, when I'm working with a couple I will see a phenomenon I call "Hall Pass." When they are feeling their loved ones…

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Media Monday (11). Don’t wait to be happy

ByJoe Martino February 24, 2020

One of my favorite TED talks is this one by Shawn Achor. I quote this talk to many people and I often have clients watch it repeatedly. Give it a watch. Maybe part of your life will be changed. Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in…

Relationships

Wait is this us? Thoughts on friendship and hurt.

ByJoe Martino February 20, 2020November 30, 2023

Recently, my wife and I went out to dinner with friends. I was telling a story about how there was someone I had to interact with regularly, but I didn’t trust the person. The wife asked, “is this us?” I replied, “Yes, that’s exactly why we go out to dinner with you guys regularly.” I…

Media Monday (10). Life is hard, but we can do something about that.

ByJoe Martino February 17, 2020

Life is hard. Really hard. We can create a culture of encouragement. Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in another form of media. It's designed to help cross multiple learning styles.

Relationships

Five things every relationship needs

ByJoe Martino February 13, 2020

In our ever increasingly busy society, I fear that we are losing time to educate and learn about relationships. And because of this, our relationships are suffering. Things like personal, emotional and feeling regulation are minimized. As humans, we crave relationships. And for some reason, we seem to be getting worse at doing something healthy…

Media Monday (9). I want to change so how do I?

ByJoe Martino February 10, 2020

So many people want to change but feel as though they are stuck forever in the same repetitive and destructive cycles. This podcast episode deals with the necessary process to change. Find it here.

Relationships

Just be kind

ByJoe Martino February 6, 2020

What’s even better than changed behavior is not having to put a fire out.
So what’s my wife’s rule? Well, you’ve probably figured it out by now, but just in case you have not, here it is.

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Media Monday (8). Generous or Cynical Assumptions

ByJoe Martino February 3, 2020

When you hear something, does your mind tend to run to the negative or the positive? This video deals with how you can train yourself to be more free by looking at things with generous assumptions. In the absence of facts to cause you to look elsewhere, consider the benefit of pursuing the most generous…