Part one can be found here and part two can be found here. You can find part three here. What has been the cause of this idea that everyone should win just for showing up? Certainly, part of it is good intentions. Of course, there is an old saying about the path to a certain…
Does it seem to you like in today’s society, everyone wins? Do you feel like people get rewarded just for showing up now? Have you heard something like, “Hey the other team outscored you by fifteen runs but we want you to feel good about yourself, so you win too!”? Yesterday I wrote about how…
In graduate school I had to take extra classes because of the institution that I attended. Many of these extra classes were put together in a string. One of those strings was a connection of three theology classes. Normally, these classes would be have been taught by three different professors. Due to a confluence of…
We start a very difficult topic today over at our blog on Creative Solutions. We are starting a conversation about the issue of sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is happening or has happened to people you know. Th statistics are absolutely scary. The topic is uncomfortable. The conversation is absolutely necessary. Understanding the implications of this…
One of the common issues that I deal with in couples counseling is related to the aftermath of mistakes. A spouse cheats A spouse uses painful words like a scalpel to cut as deeply as possible. An angry outbursts scares the bejezus out of a spouse A secret offense is brought to light. The list…
There has been a song running around in my head recently. In it a young lady sings that someday she's going to live in a big old city but the person that she's singing to is only going to be mean. Besides asking you to not judge me about my music tastes (and what's the…
Well, at least I think they are exciting. First of all, Creative Solutions is now offering a blog. We are about to launch a multi-month mental health awareness campaign and exciting things are going to be happening. We are hoping you will become more educated about mental health issues and through that education you will…
Justice is usually considered to be the righteous application of law and order against those who misuse power, break laws, and harm others. Justice punishes and corrects the evildoer and warns others from urusuing a similiar path. What is problematic in this definition is it neglects the victim and fails to see that grace is…
Each one of us responds to life stressful's situations the way we do for a reason. We are hardwired as human beings—truly created and programmed to: Long for deep, lasting, ans satisfying relationships Seek, search, and live for a destiny that is greater than ourselves. At the heart of these factors are two essential questions…
One important aspect of living authentically is living in truth. From the standpoint of relationship, this means not living in state of denial about the conditions that surround a relationship. It also means not passively accepting the negative aspects of the overall circumstances that surround us. With regard to friendships in particular it means not…
