Things I Hope My Kids Learn: You are not the sum of your mistakes. #66
One of the most common things I see in life is people enslaved by their mistakes.
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We are hardwired to connection from birth.
In large measure, what is causing this crisis of American childhood is a lack of connectedness. We mean two kinds of connectedness—close connections to other people, and deep connections to moral and spiritual meaning.
It’s not about the nails. Taking my girls to get their nails done.
Recently, I had a fun talk with a friend. I was talking about my upcoming day. “I’m going to take my wife to do a little necessary shopping, then take her for a pedicure and my girls to get their nails painted.” “At a nail salon?” “Yep,” I replied preparing to move onto the next…
Dealing with the In-laws and other parental advice givers
One of the most common discussions I have when I talk to people is “How do I handle my in-laws when it comes to my kids?” Just this morning, I heard about a couple who has parents disagreeing with their “sick” policy. You know those conversations. They usually go something like this: You: Oh, we…
Everyone Wins? Just for showing up? Part 3 of 5
I have a lot of things that I am excited to share with you over this upcoming year. But I'm kicking off the school year with a series that I did last year regarding what I think is a dangerous mentality of “everyone wins.” This series is designed to create some conversation on what it…
Connecting the dots for our children
One of things that parents complain to me about is that their kids don’t seem to understand _______________. Once, I get past the frustration level, what I usually find is that parents are bothered by the facts that their kids don’t think like little adults. They are frustrated because their kids don’t seem to have…
Should we focus on our spouse or children more?
Continuing on with the idea of looking at other people's writings for some conversation fodder. I thought we would visit my friend Dean Dorman's blog. Dean is a local therapist and I have the privilege of calling this skilled clinician a friend. He has a book coming out in the not so distant future about…
Is Divorce selfish?
So I have been unable to get any of my own posts up this week. The good news is that our business is extremely busy and there are so many wonderful projects going on that I am literally running from one project to another. That coupled with school, coupled with family has meant that my…
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Shoot a computer, shame your daughter and drag kids around so they can really learn: or other ways to stupidly parent
There is a man named David Hughes who has shared a picture on Facebook that has gone viral. Judging by the comments, it is only going to gain in popularity. I am sure that Mr. Hughes is a nice man, with strong values and this post isn't about him. I simply wanted to give him…
Parenting isn’t about parents
Being a counselor gives me a lot of opportunities to have discussions about parenting. Before I was a counselor, I assumed that people made decisions based on what was best for their children when it came to parenting. Even if I thought they were wrong, believed they were operating out of the paradigm of what…