*This post is the fictional conversation that is a fairly typical conversation about being heard** Jane and Robert had met in college. They started out hot and heavy. Married a year later, they moved for his job. While they didn’t like his job or the location of where they lived, they loved each…
I’ve written before about the power of emotional security in our relationships. I went so far as to call it the one thing necessary for relationships to not only make it but to also thrive. So great, now we know what this one thing is but what is it? What exactly is emotional security? How…
I have been having a lot of fun conversations lately with a variety of people. It all started with a radio show. I commute a fair distance, so I hear a lot of radio and the truth is that I get a little tired of music so I listen to stations that have more talking….
Two golden rules of teaching:"If you have not read a book, always make it clear to the students you have not done so; and (tangentially related) if you do not know the answer to a question, admit you do not know the answer. The desire of the teacher to appear omniscient must be resisted at…
"Do not waste time bothering whether you 'love' your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him." (46) ~C.S. Lewis I think this is true of every relationship…
One of things that parents complain to me about is that their kids don’t seem to understand _______________. Once, I get past the frustration level, what I usually find is that parents are bothered by the facts that their kids don’t think like little adults. They are frustrated because their kids don’t seem to have…
What does it meant to be heard? I believe that one of life’s core questions is “Am I being heard?” The obvious question is what does that mean? Here is a short post from my book that I’m working on seeking to begin to answer this question. We all seek to be heard beyond simply…
Friday Book review: Legacy by Grant Stoye This book was written by a friend's husband so of course, when it came out, I picked it up. Available in e-format, Legacy is a great read! If you like family friendly fiction, this is the book for you. It won't change your life. You won't have…
This letter was sent to me today. Enjoy. I remember the first day I called Creative Solutions Counseling, I was down and out. My fiancee at the time and I have been running our relationship into the ground and although we said we loved each other, we surly wouldn’t of stayed married at the rate…
I am a father. I have daughters. I am also a counselor. I see abusive relationships nearly every day in my business. A number of years ago a professor of mine gave me a list that he had compiled of red flag characteristics of abusers. Most of the time, it is the “he” that is…
