Restoring trust in a relationship can be one of the most difficult things that anyone has to do. Many people think that trust must be earned. I used to be one of those people. Now, I often urge people that ultimately, trust must be given. It can never be earned. That doesn’t mean it should…
You have to decide how you define success. This is how you will measure your life when you have spent it and make no mistake you're spending it. Every day, with every choice that you are making you are limiting yourself from other choices. And if you try to avoid that by not making any…
A common occurrence that happens all over the country in counseling offices every day is people wanting to be "happier." Almost every counselor asks the client, "How will you know when our time is done? What are your goals for counseling? A very common answer is that the client wants to be happier. Many of…
Life is an invitation to pain. When a person spends all of their time attempting to avoid that pain they usually create more pain. Think of a child being born. Think of the risk the parents are taking. (Incidentally, this is sometimes cited as a reason to not have kids). Think about marriage. We all…
Part one can be found here and part two can be found here. You can find part three here. Part four can be found here. This has been a fun series for me to write. I have had a lot of people contact me to tell me how much they agree. I have had some…
Part one can be found here and part two can be found here. You can find part three here. What has been the cause of this idea that everyone should win just for showing up? Certainly, part of it is good intentions. Of course, there is an old saying about the path to a certain…
I have a lot of things that I am excited to share with you over this upcoming year. But I'm kicking off the school year with a series that I did last year regarding what I think is a dangerous mentality of “everyone wins.” This series is designed to create some conversation on what it…
This week is suicide awareness/prevention week. 1 million people commit suicide every year worldwide In the US 11 people out of every 100,000 will commit suicide this year Suicide is the 11th leading cause of death in America It’s estimated that 12 to 25 attempts happen for every one that succeeds It is believed that…
I'm reading the book, The Gifts of imperfection by Bené Brown. I read it now and again. Recently I came across this quote. I think we are living in a risk-free obsessed society and we are paying dearly for it. Almost everything in life "Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult…
Earlier this week, my kids went back to school. I started a new quarter. My wife is finishing one of her quarters. Little man Celli is continuing to prep to make his debut to this world. I decided that I need to ease my way back into this blogging thing. I have a lot of…
