The web seems to be flooded lately with articles titled "(# of) Things Never To Say To (someone of a particular profession/situation in life)." It seems there are two lessons we need to learn: 1) Choose your words carefully. Our words can hurt others, especially when we're careless with them. 2) Start with the assumption…
“When you assume negative intent, you’re angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed.… You don’t get defensive. You don’t scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, ‘Maybe they are saying something to me that I’m not hearing.” Indra…
I read a book this weekend that's basic assertion was that almost everyone is "ridiculously in charge" of their life. I tend to agree with that sentiment. I realize people get stuck in jobs that are terrible, marriages that are dying and face other sundry difficulties in life. But I think most of the time…
If you haven't read the book Decivsive yet, you should get it and make the time to read it. I read it last year and started giving it away to people.The book deals with better ways to make decisions. I tend to think that most people underestimate the value of looking at the system that…
Come on, I had to get your attention. It's Thursday and we're getting more snow, which is good because the 4 feet that we have on the ground was starting to look a little sparse with the heatwave we had move through town last week. Seriously, what makes sex good? This is one of the…
Is it just me or do you think that assumptions get a bad rap? I'm going crazy busy preparing for this week's Hopes and Dreams Marriage conference and seeing clients, so I don't have a lot of time to flesh this idea out but I want to share something that I am convinced is true….
I'd like to invite you to attend my Hopes and Dreams Marriage conference the 18th of this month at the Ramada Plaza at 28th and Beltline.
Four questions you should be asking when you find yourself in conflict with a loved one (or anyone for that matter). 1. What do I want in this situation? This one seems so obvious, but I have found many times that people cannot articulate what exactly what it is that they want in a given…
Did you know that yesterday is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year? At least that is what I read on Facebook. I was thinking about the lack of sunshine as I was driving to an appointment today. It’s bitter cold, there is little sunshine, the wind is blowing almost non-stop. It’s…
We have to be willing to be afraid; to face our fear—often our deepest fears in order to actually accomplish almost anything meaningful in life. No matter what we want to accomplish, we have to be willing to move beyond comfort to fear. (44)
