How do you tell the difference between someone who’s truly toxic and someone who just annoys you? In this episode of The Joe Martino Show, I break down five clear markers of toxic behavior and how to spot them without overusing therapy-speak. We’ll also talk about how boundaries get misused, why “gaslighting” has become a catch-all label, and how to think more clearly about the people in your life. Episode 326 is live now.
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