Forgiveness is only effective when we walk in it. Both people have to walk in it. The person doing the forgiving must give up the hurt, anger and the need for revenge, while the person being forgiven must give up the desire to justify or live in the guilt. Forgiveness is both a one time event and a continuing process. (60)
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