I recently just finished reading Succeeding when you’re supposed to fail by Rom Brafman. I would highly reccomend it to anyone. “Succeeding When You’re Supposed to Fail: The 6 Enduring Principles of High Achievement” (Rom Brafman) I thoroughly enjoyed it and hope to do a thorough review for it as soon as possible. The book…
There is a man named David Hughes who has shared a picture on Facebook that has gone viral. Judging by the comments, it is only going to gain in popularity. I am sure that Mr. Hughes is a nice man, with strong values and this post isn't about him. I simply wanted to give him…
Being a counselor gives me a lot of opportunities to have discussions about parenting. Before I was a counselor, I assumed that people made decisions based on what was best for their children when it came to parenting. Even if I thought they were wrong, believed they were operating out of the paradigm of what…
I almost called this post, When the plot is a tragedy but I think that would miss the point of what I’m going after. I’m reading an extremely interesting book about the effects of divorce on children throughout their life. The book is the result of a qualitative study about divorce. It’s amazing to hear…
Yesterday I wrote about why I don’t believe sandwich sign parenting will work. The day before I wrote about three levels of thinking and how I believe our parenting needs to move to a level beyond punishment as a motivation. One of the readers asked a great question. He asked, What does this look like…
Yesterday I talked about the three levels of thinking and how they effect life. I promised to talk about this woman and the parenting style of shame and fear. Then the conversation had some great questions about how exactly does it look to discipline with an eye toward teaching moral reasoning versus just punishment. I’d…
Someone once wrote that feelings cannot be disputed because they are experiences. Whereas beliefs can be disputed because they are how we interpret our experiences. I completely agree with this sentiment. I believe its very important to understand the distinction before we try to understand life, we must first seek to understand how we make…
In August of 2011 I went to a funeral of a dear lady. She was a sweet Italian lady who reminded me of my own mother. She would do things like my mom did and she would wear these house gowns that both my mom and my grandma wore. This is amusing to me because…
Our lives are driven by our assumptions. What can be troublesome is the fact that we often do not stop to consider what our assumptions are and they impact us. For instance, couples often assume that conflict is bad. They will often say things to me like, "We never fight!", or "We've never had a…
I love being a parent. I also love watching people. Especially at stores. Recently, I was at a store standing next to a mother who was having a hard time controlling her children. They were not being bad, simply doing something she didn't like. She said to them, "Stop it right now, or I am…
