Blame and responsibility are not the same thing.Blame asks: Who caused this?Responsibility asks: What am I going to do now? Those are different questions.And most of us collapse them into one. Someone hurt you.Someone lied.Someone betrayed your trust.Someone handled something poorly.A leader failed.A parent didn’t show up.A spouse shut down.A friend withdrew.A system broke down….
Sooner or later, people are going to start wondering why we’re not getting the return on our investment we were promised. I’ve been saying this for a while now. And lately, I’ve been finding some other voices that are saying/asking the same thing: “What’s going on with our kids’ mental health?” We are throwing everything…
Are you one person at work and another at home? In this episode of The Joe Martino Show, we talk about what happens when the version of you your family gets isn’t the same one everyone else sees—and how to start closing that gap. Plus, I answer a listener question about “The Rule of Three”…
I want to help people.That’s at least part of why I do what I do. I’ve needed help before.I’ve had people show up for me.I’ve also had people who couldn’t help me. But—that wasn’t on them.It was on me. I wasn’t ready to change.More accurately—I wasn’t ready to pay the price change required. I write…
Let’s talk about what it looks like to change. This is Part 2 in a 3-part series on change. So—what does it look like to want change? That’s the million-dollar question.Literally.We’re investing more than ever in mental health.More therapy.More coaching.More tools. But how are we doing? Are we changing—or just circling the same struggles in…
Welcome to episode 269, where we delve into the complexities of faith, community, and authenticity in the modern church and our non-religious friends. Have you ever felt like you didn’t quite fit in at church? You’re not alone. Many churches promote the idea of “Come as you are,” but often, there’s an unspoken expectation to…
To fight injustice, live a life of justice. Call those around you to live a life of justice. Show mercy to those around you. Show love to those around you. Walk humbly in the world around you. Life is hard and can be difficult to navigate, but it really shouldn’t be that hard to navigate what it means to be kind and to treat people-even people who have committed crimes with dignity.
One of the most common things I see in life is people enslaved by their mistakes.
Faith is problematic because it requires us to embrace the mess. In the rawness of faith, we must embrace the idea that there things we cannot see and hope means we may have to wait. Waiting is often hard and sometimes, painful. But faith and hope are worth it.
In large measure, what is causing this crisis of American childhood is a lack of connectedness. We mean two kinds of connectedness—close connections to other people, and deep connections to moral and spiritual meaning.
