There was an ancient writer who wrote that we should only allow words to come out of our mouths that will build others up and benefit those that are listening. I dream of a society where that is the normal way. When we dismiss everything that disagrees with us as an attack, we are giving away the opportunity to benefit all those who listen to us.
There is something of a joke amongst marriage and relationship therapists. Everyone we meet, regardless of what is going on in their marriage, just needs to improve their communication. Domestic Violence? Just help us improve our communication. Infidelity? Just help us improve our communication. Financial Issues? Just help us improve our communication. Criminal Enterprise? Just…
So today, take a moment and think about people you know who are grieving over something other than the disruption this virus has caused in our world. I know those are the people who would have been on Marissa’s mind today.
Do something for them today. Write them a letter or email (you might have to google how to do this safely). Reach out to someone you know who might be missing someone today.
Then go and hug your loved ones living in your house. Tell them how much you love them.
None of us know what tomorrow holds.
Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in another form of media. It's designed to help cross multiple learning styles. Anxiety is not a new feeling. Often people try to deal with it by going to one of two extremes. They will often be tempted to believe that…
Don’t engage in fear shaming. Regardless of how you feel about the response to this situation, please avoid fear shaming. This particular virus of shame cuts both ways.
I despise it so much that I am about to institute a policy in our companies. It’s simple: if you complain or gossip, you’re fired. No write-ups. No warnings. Just gone.
The only way to deal with a virus is to kill it. Destroy it and that is what I want you and me to do. Because it will take all of us to remove this virus.
My daughter asked me what I thought about the musical and I told her that I loved it because I believe there are only two stories ever told; stories of brokenness and stories of redemption. Sometimes, both brokenness and redemption are weaved throughout the story.
To me, that is what makes Hamilton so profound. It tells the story of brokenness and redemption. It shows the messiness that is life.
Did you know that The Emotionally Secure Couple book comes with a webpage dedicated as a resource site? You can find questions for a deeper discussion after each chapter. You can find videos where my wife and I illustrate necessary skills for good communication. Check it out! It's today's Media Monday. You can find it…
Relationships are hard They can have painful experiences. Those painful experiences from past experiences can cast shadows into our current relationships. People are complicated messes. Even, perhaps especially, the people we love. Often, when I'm working with a couple I will see a phenomenon I call "Hall Pass." When they are feeling their loved ones…
One of my favorite TED talks is this one by Shawn Achor. I quote this talk to many people and I often have clients watch it repeatedly. Give it a watch. Maybe part of your life will be changed. Media Monday is a series where I focus on something that I have created in…
