This is the first part in a series on relational equity. This is actually a chapter directly out of my book that I’m working on. I imagine some of the things I have to say in this section will be somewhat controversial. That is not my intent. This is a key to a healthy relationship….
Recently, I was contacted by another therapist regarding a consultation. This is what she said to me in almost verbatim. In the past, we’ve had too much of men being able to judge women and make them feel… “less” but today we’re encouraging it in women. Rather than solving the problem, we’re just teaching women…
A great tragedy of our day is that we have no framework with which to process bad things. We do not process difficult things. We ignore and soothe them. Because we can’t process it, we become cynical and jaded. No longer is life a series of seasons where some are good and some are bad,…
When difficult things happen, people often lump all of them into trials or bad things happening. But the truth is often much more complicated than that. Too often, we reap consequences that are difficult. Those consequences are the result of something we did. That’s not a trial. That’s life. If I blow all of my…
I met Amelia Rhodes over an iPad. She was writing in one of my favorite coffee shops on an iPad, so of course I had to talk to her about it. It turns out that our daughters are in the same grade. It also turns out that she is an author. Her book is called,…
One of the most common discussions I have when I talk to people is “How do I handle my in-laws when it comes to my kids?” Just this morning, I heard about a couple who has parents disagreeing with their “sick” policy. You know those conversations. They usually go something like this: You: Oh, we…
If you’re not reading Brené Brown, I think you’re missing out. Ive quoted her here numerous times. The following quote is from her book, “The Gifts of Imperfection” (You can purchase the book by clicking on the banner to the left of my page). “Authenticity is a collection of choices we have to make every…
“Times covetousness is forever. Time devours and devours—and gives back nothing. How terrible to face death without ever having claimed freedom, even in all its danger!” ~Frederick Nietzsche, in Irvin Yalom’s When Nietzsche Wept as quoted by Dan Allender in To Be Told Workbook.
I have no idea who Robert Smith is. I subscribe to Michael Hyatt’s blog and he wrote about their friendship today and Smith’s book. I am agnostic towards Smith’s book, and probably a little non-plussed because I’m always skeptical about promises of “totally removing” any emotion like fear from our life. But I mean if…
Our desire for security will always be rocked when we decide to trust someone. One of the most discouraging aspects of trusting people is the fact that they may not turn out to be the person you thought you were investing in. Of course, they may turn into someone much better. (51)
