Points to ponder (100 words or less)
Most people never run far enough on their first wind to find out they’ve got a second. (17) – William James
It’s not the what, it’s the what. Two important questions regarding your desires.
I want to lose 50 pounds…. I want to write a novel… I want to travel to France… I want to help children in Africa… I want to start a small business… I want my marriage to be better than it is… I want my relationship with my child/parent to be restored… We all have…
What is the one thing? Part 3
What is Emotional Security Emotional security is knowing it is safe to know and be known. Completely known by the people in your life. I know a woman who is beautiful. By any definition, she contains all of the outer signs of beauty. She is also smart, articulate and funny. I met her because…
What is the one thing? Part 2
Yesterday, I asked, what is the one thing? What do you believe is that one thing necessary for a happy marriage. I promised that I would answer the question today, so here it is. My answer to the question is emotional security. If you have emotional security, you will have a relationship that will not…
What is the one thing?
Sometimes, when I go out to eat I embarrass my family. Well, mostly I embarrass my kids. I love to ask the server one of two questions. And now, I would like to ask you one of those questions. Your answer to this question will impact how you treat other people in your life. Your…
How many marriages have been ruined by video games? A reflection on a question
Let me tell you what this post is not. It is not a slam on video games. In fact, I bought the video game in question yesterday. I intend to play at some point in the next two days. I was in a meeting with a number of other counselors yesterday and one of them…
Points to Ponder (100 words or less)
“If you’re not prepared to make a mistake, you will never come up with anything original.” (16) ~Sir Ken Robinson
I want to forgive but how do I forget? What if forgiveness is done better by remembering?
Recently I had a conversation with a friend from another city. He essentially said, “I want to forgive, but how do I forget?” This is a comment lament when the conversation turns to forgiveness. How exactly am I supposed to forget the hurt that has been done to me. We’ve all heard the trite statement,…
Should we focus on our spouse or children more?
Continuing on with the idea of looking at other people's writings for some conversation fodder. I thought we would visit my friend Dean Dorman's blog. Dean is a local therapist and I have the privilege of calling this skilled clinician a friend. He has a book coming out in the not so distant future about…
Is Divorce selfish?
So I have been unable to get any of my own posts up this week. The good news is that our business is extremely busy and there are so many wonderful projects going on that I am literally running from one project to another. That coupled with school, coupled with family has meant that my…