"I realized people prefer to define us by what we do rather than take the time to discover who we are. Titles serve a quicker fix, which allows people to classify us without actually understanding us." (36)
~Kary Oberbrunner in Your Secret Name.
"I realized people prefer to define us by what we do rather than take the time to discover who we are. Titles serve a quicker fix, which allows people to classify us without actually understanding us." (36)
~Kary Oberbrunner in Your Secret Name.
I'm always fascinated by the topic of forgiveness and how it works out in every day life. As a therapist, I can honestly say that it is perhaps the most troubling thing for many of my clients to face. Not their abuse, not their affairs, not their brokenness but the brokenness of others that has…
And so we retreat, back to what we’ve always known. There is a suffocating comfort to it all. Letting go is not easy. The hoarders we see on TV who are stockpiling cats and newspapers have nothing on us emotional hoarders. At least the things they refuse to give up create physical piles before their…
I bought this book on a lark. I am glad that I did. Rom Brafman points out that for as nearly as long as can be remembered in mental health services that what happened to you dictated what you did. By and large, he states, “The prevailing notion in the field used to be that…
Being hurt by someone is not an excuse to hurt someone else. We have very little control over the hurt that is inflicted upon us but we have 100% control over what we do with that hurt. Do we turn it into motivation for something good and redemptive or do we revel in it, making…
It often reminds me of the story of the pharisee (a religious man, to be sure) who stood up and loudly proclaimed, “Lord, I thank you that I am not like other men, cheaters, sinners, adulterers….” Of course, the difference today is we would be more likely to hear a prayer about how we thank God that we are not like those poor fools who dress up in suits and miss the whole point of the gospel.
…What would bring his salvation to question? Well, the American Eagle on his shoulder, of course. We’re not all that far from there today, are we? How many people have their love of God questioned because they prefer to wear a suit and tie on Sunday morning?
It's not facebook, twitter, or any other "thing" that is wrong with our society. If someone is a bully on facebook, then he's probably a bully in real life. If someone is narcissistic on Twitter, she’s probably the same way in real life. Tools don’t make us anything, they simply reveal what is there. That’s…