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Thanks for that Joe, very insightful!
Joe, is it possible to forgive someone if they don’t ask for forgiveness?
Wayne, that is a great question. What do you think?
You are able to forgive someone even if they do not ask for forgiveness. The person is saying, “I refuse to let you overpower me and I am going to take my life back. I am choosing to be an agent rather than a victim.”