I recently just finished reading Succeeding when you’re supposed to fail by Rom Brafman. I would highly reccomend it to anyone.
I thoroughly enjoyed it and hope to do a thorough review for it as soon as possible. The book is based on the idea that people can overcome almost anything and we can teach ourselves how to do it. At the end of the book he offers nine parenting tips that I thought I would share with you. What are your thoughts about them?
They are:
- Give your children choices. He argues that choices help our children understand their own power of control for their own life as adults.
- Follow the meaning. He suggests that we should find what is meaningful to our children and engage them on that level
- Know when to quit and when to persevere. He posits that quitting isn’t always bad and that persevering can be one of the most rewarding exercises for our children and us.
- Model an easy going temperament. He doesn’t quite explain how to do this if you don’t have one but he does share the importance of getting one throughout the book
- Laugh about things. He suggests that laughter truly may be the best medicine.
- Communicate love and respect. He suggests here that shooting your daughter’s laptop and putting it online may not be the most respectful thing you could do. OK, I made that part up.
- Encourage them to take on challenges and stretch themselves.
- Let them know you’re always there for them.
- Let them know you’re part of a team
- Treat them as you would your best friend.
What do you think of his list. He calls them “researched back suggestions” (p.170 ebook).
It’s a very good list. As I read it I was pleased to see that we parented our children in pretty much the same way.